Why It's Important To Take A Break From Social Media

Hi guys! I wasn't really motivated to write a blog post because you know how procrastination and anxiety is just an enemy of progress but I decided that blogging doesn't have to be tedious and cause me worry. It can be a short and a sweet 20 minutes and sometimes I forget that. So ya girl is back in business!

This post is all about why it's important to take a break from social media. Before breaking up from school, a lot of my friends were taking a backseat on social media (at least I think...), and although I miss the constant notifications on my phone from our groupchat, I have to admit that a break was what a lot of us needed.
Social media, which you may have heard hundreds of times, is a beautiful monster. It has its benefits but it also has its disadvantages. Social media does influence things like FOMO, anxiety, depression, peer pressure and other various things. The reason why I personally decided to take a break was because it definitely had an effect on my mood. I was more worried, upset and just uncomfortable. Not that I'm saying social media was a DIRECT cause of that, it definitely linked/increased those emotions. Plus the pressure of constantly revising and the pressure of being a new blogger ALL contributed to my negative mood.
Overall, social media didn't 'free' me from my problems. I seeked comfort in YouTube and scrolling down my Facebook timeline. However, social media was just eating up my time and didn't solve any of the problems I had going on in my personal life.

This is not a 'I HATE SOCIAL MEDIA' post, this is a 'be cautious' post. Time is very precious. It's limited. Social media has helped me in so many ways. It's where I can laugh, where I can find quotes that relate directly to my life, it's where I can contact my friends. But when it becomes something that consumes my time and attention, which causes me to lose focus on what's important - that's when it becomes toxic. If you're someone like me who legit has nothing to do in his or her spare time and turns to social media - then pause. There's plenty of other things to do:

-There's Netflix
-There's taking a walk
-There's watching a comedy film
-Going out with friends
-Blogging
-Sleeping
-Writing
-Reading
-Doing your hair
-Doing your make up
etc etc

Social media is just part of this growing world but that doesn't mean we should make it our whole world. A resolution of mine is to spend only an hour a day on social media (*sips tea very slowly*). Some of us may have social media drama happening between friends or some of us may have developed feelings of anxiety because we don't receive a text/a text back from that 'special' person. So imagine what a break could do. It can change one's perspective. Overall, remember to just take it easy. It is a time eater. Make sure to make the most of your time.
Have a great week!
"Feelings are just visitors. Let them come and go." -THISISLOVTELIFEQUOTES.COM

Simply, Jessy Tee

Did I Achieve My 2016 Goals? + My 2017 Goals

Hi guys, it's been a minute since I last blogged. To cut the long story short, I had to do some re-evaluating as a blogger. And there will be some changes which I'll let you know about sooner or later. But right now I'm just slowly but surely getting back on my feet.
But in today's post, I really wanted to share some of my 2016 goals and whether I achieved them or not and also my 2017 goals.

My 2016 goals: Achieved or not achieved?

Now, 2017...?

How To Slay 2017: Physically, Emotionally, Mentally And Spiritually! | Collaboration With TheeOriginalJay

HAPPY NEW YEAR GUYS! It's almost crazy to think it's 2017. Feels like 2013 wasn't so long ago. But I hope all is well and you stay committed to your new year resolutions. I would love to know how you guys entered the new year! But today I'm gonna be writing about how to SLLLLLAAAAAYYYYY 2017. YASS girl - how to snatch the edges off of it!! I'm gonna be writing how you can mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically slay this year. 2017 is going to be the year girls! Now let's get in formation. But before starting...
This is actually a collaboration with the amazing 'theoriginaljay'! She's has a blog called: Journeyspeaks. She will be doing a blog post on, "How to be happy this 2017". Thanks for reaching out to me girl, this collaboration was a great idea x

Physically:

We all need to look like a princess/queen for this year, so here's some beauty tips to get you all glo'ed up!
1. Drink water. (As a challenge, try and drink 1 bottle of water everyday) 
Water can improve the overall look of your skin, wash out all those toxins, get your hair looking nice. Sometimes I can't see the benefits of water but just know it's healthy and it's doing you wonders. Just like prayer.

2. Pamper yo' self! 
This is definitely part of my New Years resolution. I want to start treating myself to a manicure done by someone else for a change. Not every month cause ain't nobody got that kind of money but just once in a while. I also want to start getting my hair done more often in more various styles. Just want to treat myself overall.

3. Exercise or sports. 
Personally, I can't do any sports because it's my last year of secondary school and ya, it's a bit late to start wanting to shoot hoops or anything but hopefully exercising could be something to do. Personally, I actually like exercising when thinking about it (MAD FACT) but I just don't do it because it's a consistency kind of thing and at the moment revising for GCSES doesn't let that happen. But I finish this year so fingers cross.

4. Put more effort in appearances. 
This one I already feel some kind of way about because if nobody is seeing me besides my family, then I have the option to not look all glowed up. But either way, it just boosts your mood when you look nice.

Mentally: 

1. Comparison is the thief of joy. Comparing ourselves to others can honestly kill vibes, whether we feel it or not. To constantly critique and analyse ourselves to other people is a dangerous habit that will only make us feel like crap. So just don't do it. The minute you feel you're doing something along the lines of comparison, just find something else to do. Watch another episode of a series you're into, read or just do something active/creative.

2. Take a break from social media. 
This honestly will help you get your mentality cleansed. I feel a break needs to happen on a daily in order for us to experience things for what it really is. Social media just blurs what's relevant and what's not. Remember to "cleanse" more this year. You WILL feel mentally better. 

3. Talk to someone. 
When we go through things, especially things that can cause us to feel mentally somehow, we need to talk to someone. Worrying constantly is not normal. Feeling like you don't want to get up in the morning constantly is also not normal. Confide in someone about how you feel. If you honestly have no one- well hello, hey, hi! My name is Jessy and I'm someone you can talk to. Don't feel afraid to email me or send me a message. It's time to start helping each other, that's how we get better.

4. Change of perspective. 
This one is different for everyone. Everybody has a different perspective but I feel if you're in a bad place mentally, you desperately need a change of perspective. My change is to not take everything so seriously. There's some things that require seriousness but there's some things that simply don't so therefore a change of perspective is needed in my case. 

Emotionally:

1. Let go of things that don't benefit you anymore. Friends, boys, worry, etc. Let it go. By letting go, you just have to let time do its thing whilst developing a change of attitude. Your emotions are important but they should not control the way you live your life. It will leave you hurt and unfocused. Let go girl. 

2. Understand what's going on with you emotionally. You could be just stressing , you could just be having a bad day. However you could have anxiety or some form of disorder. Whatever it is, you most understand what's happening up in your head in order to move on. Use 2017 to understand what's happening on up there. Once you do, figure out what you have to do to get yourself in a better state.

3. Know your worth and add tax onto it. 

4. Understand that bad times will occur. 
If you believe that 2017 is going to be some walk in the park, then I plead that you be a little more realistic. You will have bad times, maybe horrible times (God forbid) but to live a life where everything is great all the time is a complete lie/illusion. Lol, that's Instagram mate. You live in the real life. So remember real things will happen. But you're strong and simply capable of achieving wonders.

Spiritually:

Whilst I know not everyone may be spiritual, I still think it's important for me to explain to you some things that I do/I yet to do this year which I know is going to better me spiritually and can better you in whatever personal troubles you may endure.

1. Think. Write. & Pray.
I worry a lot. And I hate it. It's a terrible habit which I realised I developed towards the end of summer. But this year I'm getting rid of it. I didn't suffer from this before and I don't plan to for very long. To be honest, I just want to start writing when I get worried. Not on my blog but on a piece of paper. Write everything that I'm feeling. After I just want to pray on it. Properly. By the time I make this a habit every time I begin to worry, I'm sure it will disperse. I know it will.

2. Study biblical that help with my life personally. 
My previous resolution for 2016 was to read the bible. I don't think I did once. The bible is a complex text that honestly confused me and made me question a lot. But I'm going to start again because there's a lot of stories of realised that can aid with my own personal growth. I just want to read it more, understand it and grow as I read.

3. Go to a youth church. 
This is what I started last year and I hope to go more this year. I'm trying to not be so phased in terms of the whole making friends side of it because that's not what I'm there to do but hopefully this year, I can develop more relations. If not , then I'm good with that. *Nicki Minaj's voice*

4.Walking in faith
There's nothing more powerful than faith. Faith that things will work out. Faith that what will be for you will always be for you. Faith that 2017 will be a "slayful" year.

Thank you so much for reading. This is an amazing collaboration with the beautiful original Jay and I hope we can do more collabs in the future. Remember to do whatever makes you happy this 2017. Make sure to grow and glo in everything you do and have faith, even the worst times because guess what boo, everything happens for a reason! Peace and love my queens✨

"I dream it, I work hard, I grind till I own it!" Beyonce

Simply, Jessy Tee